The ‘birthday/end of school’ gauntlet is almost over! And once again, it nearly broke me! How come “What to Expect When Expecting” and all those super helpful baby books didn’t mention that you should never have more than one child born in the same month? And you should avoid giving birth during the month of May or June if at all possible. Just writing that makes me laugh, cause that would imply we actually have any control over any of this. Maybe what the books should have really said is: “Buy diapers and brace for having very little control over the rest of your life!!!!!!!!” In all seriousness, I should have adapted to giving up control by now. I am realizing my life has been the picture perfect example of having very little control over the things that matter most. Not to bore you with details, but Lance and I always knew we wanted a relatively big family. Izzy and Lil are 21 months apart, and I got pregnant for the 3rd time when Lil was 12 months old. My master plan was unfolding perfectly…. Then one Saturday morning, I got a sharp pain in my side. I was young and naïve, so I didn’t think it was anything too serious. Lance was in grad school and had class. Izzy had a soccer game. I didn’t have time for anything to be seriously wrong with me! The next thing I knew, I was in the ER and a nurse was starting an IV of morphine. I vividly recall saying “I can’t have morphine, I am pregnant!” The mean nurse responded “Oh honey, you aren’t going to be pregnant for long.” I started bawling and screamed “I want my mom!!!” Apparently my c-section from when Lil was breach had caused scar tissue on my fallopian tubes. As a result, I had an ectopic pregnancy (I didn’t even know what an ectopic pregnancy was at the ripe age of 32!) And since I prioritized a soccer game (where Izzy was thoroughly un-amused and picked flowers while the ball rolled past her) I was actually bleeding out by the time I arrived at the hospital. By the grace of God, they saved my life, but not my fallopian tubes!! That began our IVF journey- which also didn’t go according to my master plan…. Bensten wasn’t born for another 5 years. (I was hoping to have a VBAC delivery, but you can’t be induced for a VBAC and Bensten had no interest in leaving my uterus- so by the time they delivered him- he was 10LBS!) If I had stopped and listened, I am sure I would have heard someone yelling “Heather, wake up- nothing is actually in your control!!” But- that is how we ended up with a birthday in March. And April. And May. And June x2. Throw in Mother’s Day, Father’s Day. College move- outs. End of school. Start of swim season…..I feel like I have lost my ever-loving mind! And I actually have no clue what this email was intended to tell you. (But you are welcome for the family planning advice and random birth story details that you surely didn’t ask for!) Maybe I was thinking about Father’s Day….. I am really grateful that Lance is the father of my 4 favorite humans. He is so good to all of us! I am also grateful my dad is the most amazing human, and continues to make me feel so loved and special. So in honor of all the awesome dads out there- we will be offering Frozen Cinnamon Rolls this coming week. But since Bensten is getting his wisdom teeth out on Wednesday, all quantities will be limited next week, so hop on early if you want some! XO, Heather
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