his one is for all the parents who are worried about their kid. In fact, it’s also for any kid struggling to find their place in this crazy world.
Two years ago I realized Bensten’s current school was not the right place for him. Academically it was fine. But socially it was all wrong. Despite having been there for 3 years, he just had not found his people. And truthfully, I don’t think the administration appreciated Bensten for who he is. (And I like to tell my kids that I love them just the way they are. They are not perfect, but that’s fine by me!)
He wasn’t miserable- he just wasn’t happy. But the thought of change was paralyzing for both of us. What school was right for him? What if he didn’t get accepted? What if we moved schools and he wasn’t any happier?
The school application process is exhausting and overwhelming and somewhat terrifying. And the school consultant we hired said applying for a “non-entry year” (8th grade) decreased our chances of being accepted exponentially! (So we called in favors with everyone we knew to put in a good word for our kid!)
Long story short, we applied to 2 schools, and he was accepted at both. And while we were happy, we were all still scared. It was exactly a year ago that we signed on the dotted line and made the leap of faith to join Flint Hill.
I cannot adequately describe what an amazing year it has been. Bensten found his people. Teachers and peers appreciated him for who he is. He ran cross country, swam and played baseball for the Huskies. He felt like an integral part of every team, despite not being the strongest player. He loved learning. He smiled every single day. He asked a girl to a dance. His perspective grew, his empathy expanded and his self worth exploded.
365 days.
In just a year, his life is forever changed.
Today was his 8th grade graduation and awards ceremony. And while Lance and I were happy to just be a part of the Flint Hill community- our minds were blown when Bensten won the citizenship award. His advisor made mention of so many of his qualities that as parents we have always appreciated- but that might have gone unnoticed at school.
I was a sobbing mess. This time last year, I was a nervous wreck. I wanted so badly to help my kid, but there was no manual. No guarantees. But if I can share one bit of advice, it’s to take the leap. Follow your gut. And stay the course. Meet you kids where they are. Growth is not always linear.
I am such a grateful mom right now. And I am relishing it for all its worth since I know the next challenge lurks in the not too distant future.
Xo,
Heather
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